Important ingredients in my recipe for happiness became clearer to me through a recent bout of inner grumpiness. It was a challenging, mentally uncomfortable state.
Chances are you've felt it yourself at some point... you notice some worries, negativity, fearfulness, or discouraging thoughts raising their tedious voices, and beginning to seriously degrade your mood.
My thoughts were getting stuck in a negative loop and tripping me into a ditch. Fortunately I noticed and called myself on it, "Hey... I'm wallowing in the ditch!"
The good news is that this uncomfortable mental state provided just the right impetus to drive me to further refine my recipe for happiness and cultivate a new, more productive way of thinking. Don't you love it when you get to see that challenges lead to rewards!
How to Be Happy - the Ingredients
Essential ingredients in the recipe for happiness came to light by pressing a few questions:
The main ingredients are the very ingredients that you love in yourself. To identify these and make them work in your mix, think of the positive forces that drive you in life and that make your heart sing.
Start by finding your passions and then making sure you give those expression in your life
Determine your life purpose and honor your unique calling
Identify your personal core values, and sift those thoroughly with your priorities. Your values and priorities are your spices, and you’ll sprinkle them through every day
Your self empowerment will naturally be strengthening and causing your mix to rise
Mix a master batch that will nourish you for years to come. And... bake small batches that will feed you each and every day!
Use Your Happy Spices Generously
In the personal development articles on how to be happy, it's pointed out that consciously living in line with your personal core values is an important key to happiness. So it's obviously a primary ingredient in your recipe for happiness.
I call your values your happy spices because it's so easy to sprinkle them throughout your days for wonderful results.
For example, if Giving/Contribution is one of your top personal core values, then you definitely want to express it every day to further cultivate your authentic happiness.
Here are some simple ideas on how to easily activate core values every day, and keep your happiness quotient filled to overflowing:
Giving/Contribution
Talk to a lonely elderly person when you have the opportunity
Help a child with a task, to play a game, or read a book
Help a co-worker, or make them a cuppa at tea time
Trust
Sit quietly in nature and befriend a wild bird or animal. Gaining the trust of a defenseless animal can feel very uplifting if trust is a core value.
Live up to your word. Your self esteem, confidence, and self satisfaction will also grow when you see yourself doing what you say you will.
Cooperation
Ask others their opinion, then listen to their answer (!?:), and discuss a way that may enhance the situation.
When someone asks you to do something, immediately think of 3 reasons it may benefit you and others, before you respond.
What are some other ingredients for wonderful authentic happiness recipes? And how can we add them into the 'how to be happy' mix and grow and spread joy? Please share...